We all face different challenges in life, some more than others. One great rule to follow to keep away from omitting any negative vibes is, if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. Gossip is not only a negative use of your energy but a waste of time and effort. If you have time for gossiping then you are not utilising your time properly. Negative talk rewires your brain for negative thoughts and it becomes a cycle. I am not going to say don’t have an opinion on anything because we all do, but keep it to yourself, better yet, just focus on yourself.

If you are at a point in your life where you feel down and out, you should in fact be grateful. I know this is the hardest thing to do at certain points in your life but bear with me. Find what there is in your life that you have to be grateful for. Have you thought of yours? Let’s say one of your family members passed away, or you got laid off at work or even got into a fight with a close friend or spouse. These are all examples that can occur in one’s life and would make you feel upset, angry, lonely and to a certain extent depending on circumstances, give you self destructive thoughts. If you can feel an onset of these feelings coming on you must switch up your thoughts straight away.

What is the single thing that can completely switch around your psyche? Do something selfless to help someone less fortunate than yourself. Why? This will help you feel gratitude for everything you have and help you to look at your situation with the ‘glass half full’ approach. No matter how bad your situation, you will always be better off than someone else in the world. So many of us are cut off from so many atrocities in this world, we really have no clue about the different kinds of battles people are fighting, sometimes these battles are closer to home than you think. Whatever your situation, just stop and think of all the people in the world who don’t know where their next meal is coming from, or where they will sleep – be thankful.

“We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.”
Ronald Reagan

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There are so many different things one can do to make someone’s day better and you never know just how much of an impact you will have on someone’s life. It can be something as little as a genuine smile and compliment to a stranger, or helping someone elderly or less able-bodied with heavy bags. The age of the smartphone has connected us in so many ways but it has also made us into zombies and disconnected us on a much deeper level by lowering human interaction. This action will also help you deal with whatever issues you have inside of you by distracting your negative thoughts and replacing them with positive thoughts.

The science behind it all
Studies done in the past (source below) show that people that helped others were 42% more likely to say they were “very happy”. It helped the subjects doing the selfless acts achieve feelings of pleasure and happiness. Isn’t that what life’s all about? These feelings of compassion and kindness helps keep the negative emotions away and out of your conscious. There is also evidence that it actually helps your body perform better at every tasks like weight control and lowering your blood pressure. Experts commenting on the matter said that feeling a real connection with people around you is good for your self-esteem and when you are feeling down and out this is exactly what you need!

 

Try to do one selfless thing everyday, you can simply start with offering a stranger a smile. We all have something we can offer someone. GSY

 

Sources

http://scholar.princeton.edu/sites/default/files/slinden/files/helpershigh.pdf